Almost assuredly the most prominent stumbling block in a relationship is miscommunication. It insidiously worms its way into every level of our dealings with others despite our most sincere and concerted efforts to eliminate it. Why, despite our every exertion to the contrary, does miscommunication continue to thrive?
Let’s start with you, the center of creation, at least from your individual perspective. While you can “walk a mile in another man’s shoes” it is still you who is walking in them. You can never completely know what universe they inhabit. Isn’t that true? How many times have you felt that you were in perfect agreement with another person only to find out that you are not only on different pages but are reading out of completely different books. Of one thing you can be absolutely sure, no other person sees the world exactly as you do. So this is our starting point, each of us sees the world differently and while we can share our hopes and loves and fears with others they can never entirely know our world.
Obviously, we can’t fully know there’s either. Our genetic hardwiring and life experience create a chasm impossible to transcend. We can only stand on our precipice and peer across the gulf offering directions and shouting support from afar. So are our relationships forever doomed, our true identity hopelessly concealed from the ones we love? The answer is, “No!” That is because our differences are not our “true identity.”
There is a sameness within us all, a foundation upon which a stable, vibrant, and loving relationship can be built. This common foundation I call Eufeeling. Once Eufeeling is appreciated it unites us, engaging individual differences on a common thread like a string of pearls. Just as the beauty of each pearl is enhanced by its neighbors so individual differences of a Eufeeling relationship shine with the luster of love. Miscommunication will necessarily always exist but it does not need to add to the struggle and strife of a relationship. In the light of Eufeeling, miscommunication softens and submits to the overpowering influence of harmony and love.